Releasing Miss Independent

Hey Sis! One thing that I wish was talked about more is the need to NOT be so independent. Maybe the focus should be on interdependence, especially if you desire to be in a relationship. Tune in now as my guest Tamika McTier and I discuss how to release our independency in order to be vulnerable and open in our relationships.

 

Tamika’s Bio

Tamika McTier is a certified marriage coach, wife of 16 years, author, and mom of two. After spending years in ministry serving married couples, she accepted the call that God had for her to serve married women and couples on a higher level.

Tamika uses her signature TALK method and experience to empower other women to have happy marriages of their own. She writes about relationships, offers coaching on the power of communication in marriage, and hosts the Ageless Conversations podcast. Tamika’s mission is to help wives thrive in their marriage while writing their own stories, creating their own paths, and becoming unstoppable in the pursuit of their God-given dreams.

 

Key Takeaways:

“We often to choose to be independent based on what they see.” - Taccarra Renee

“Vulnerability is your friend.” - Tamika McTier

“I remember feeling trapped, wondering if I would ever get to a place where I could say what's on my heart without the fear of judgment, abandonment, or rejection.” - Tamika McTier

“I don't think we realize how big of an impact our childhood has on us.” - Taccarra Renee

Key Discussion Points:

• Mom at 19. Pregnant by high school sweetheart, but something was missing - 2:44
• 4 Pillars: Fitness, Faith, Family, and Finances- 11:40
• Negative Effects of being too independent – Not inviting your spouse into your world, upset because your spouse isn’t supporting - 18:05
• Vulnerability is your friend it creates an emotional connection - 20:40
• Trauma informed relationships - 21:15
• Childhood impact - 24:36
• There is a difference between nagging and voicing your concerns - 30:53
• Interdependence vs codependence - 34:01
• Be direct - 33:44
• How does one become self aware of their nuances? - 40:33
  • Has something been told to you more than once? - 40:48
  • Don’t take everything as offensive - 41:24
  • Process what’s being said to you. - 41:17

 

What advice would you give to our sisters out there regarding releasing Miss Independent?

• Ask yourself 2 questions. What is your biggest fear in releasing her and why did you give her so much power?

 

Where to find Tamika:

IG: www.instagram.com/_tamikamctier

Podcast: Ageless Conversations

Book: The Image In The Mirror

Website: www.tamikamctier.com

 

 

Taccarra Renee is a speaker, strategist, aspiring author, and coach who has made it her goal to help the high achieving “strong” woman to live her most authentic life OUTSIDE of the workplace. She believes that for far too long, women have been told that following the life formula of going to school, making good grades, and getting a good job equals a successful life. Unfortunately, this “formula” has left many women unfulfilled and lacking critical knowledge.   

Using her lifetime of unparalleled life and professional experiences of being a military child turned Army Officer and nurse, Taccarra takes clients through her D.R.E.A.M. and C.O.R.E. framework to assist the professional woman in creating the life that she desires and deserves.

 

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